Resilience is a little like patience, it comes naturally to some but for the majority of us it’s a matter of learning new methods and ways of finding calm. It’s completely necessary for ordinary working lives and has become fundamental to being able to cope with ever increasing acceleration of change and expectations in today’s society. In an age of information overload our days are spent running faster just to catch up. The treadmill is relentless and doesn’t give you much time to take stock, and maybe think ahead to what is really important in your life.
Think about a time when you became consumed with a growing pile of things to do or issues presenting obstacles in your life. You reach a point where the only focus you have is on what is in front of you and the need to get through that day. In this situation taking a step back and reviewing what is best for you, your business, and interacting with people that are important to you seems impossible.
Often it’s a conflict between work and our private life that compounds the situation.
We are all able to work on our own resilience but there are only a few people with the capability to help others to affirm and build resilience. It could simply be that drawing on some perspective helps. There is also something basically reaffirming when you can share your thoughts and feelings with someone who is willing to listen, encourage, suggest different ways of reframing a situation, and then help you to create another perspective which helps you draw out a solution.
As coaching becomes increasingly common, both in business and personal life, the options available are being put into perspective. A good coach will be able to identify those issues that are diminishing you and the circumstances and instances that will build you up.
Without any loss of control, a coach will help you focus on methods and strategies that will assist in identifying a course of action. This could include ways of protecting yourself in difficult situations, a change in ways of dealing with awkward characters, being more direct with people where you need their support or encouragement, or ways of restructuring your time to deal with work or personal activities including life balance and priorities.
Do you feel that building your own resilience has become important for you?
“It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it” ….